Things cheaters say when faced with a cheating partner are very revealing. Many people can’t believe a person would cheat on their significant other. However, the truth is that many cheaters do actually leave their significant others for good reasons. If you find out what those are and how to overcome them, you’ll be much better equipped to get your cheating boyfriend back.
Here’s what he might say if confronted with these issues:
Listen, I’m going to be totally honest with you: In my early twenties, I was cheated on by my boyfriend. At the time, he wasn’t really sure if he wanted to be with me. There were probably some other unresolved issues that he was hiding, too, but rather than breaking up with me, he stayed in the relationship because of emotional insecurity. I ended up getting hurt emotionally, and my relationship wasn’t good enough for me at that point in time.
While you’re confronting him right now: listen to what he has to say, without trying to accuse, blame or defend yourself. Just listen to what he has to say. This will help you figure out what things around the relationship were really bothering him. Remember, it’s always easier to defend yourself than to admit guilt. If you accuse him of having an affair when there isn’t any, you will only make him more suspicious and defensive.
What about the reason why someone else might have strayed? If you ask a cheater the reason why they left, they will often tell you that they felt bad about themselves. They may state that they feel bad because they don’t feel like their partner deserves as much attention as they do. Most people feel bad about themselves when they feel their loved ones are not spending as much attention as they do. If you confront them right then and there, you can gain enough attention from them to change their mind and convince them to spend more time with you again. When this happens, it’s possible that they will reconsider their decision and stay in the relationship.
There are times where you will want to confront: a cheating partner before things get too heated between you and them. Most cheaters feel very guilty when they find out about a partner who is cheating, so they will immediately think of a way to cover up the affair. One of the things cheaters say when confronted is that they were just playing around. They will try to justify the cheating by stating things like “Well, she was just playing around!” This is a huge mistake, because sooner or later, they’ll get caught out and this won’t look good in front of you or anyone else who knows about the affair.
Another thing cheater will say: when confronted is that they weren’t cheating on their partner because their partner is a horrible person. It’s perfectly normal to feel sad or upset about cheating, but pretending that it wasn’t really happening is going to make a big mistake. Most cheaters will tell you that they would never hurt a person. Unfortunately, if this was true, we’d all be in danger.
Cheaters have an ego, and when they are confronted about cheating, they will usually try to use this as an excuse.